Oral sex is commonly regarded as a kind of foreplay—that is, a warmup to the main sexual event. But if you’re rushing through oral sex to get to the good stuff, you just might be missing out on a whole lot of pleasure. Not only can oral sex make sex last longer, but it’s also a great way to increase intimacy between romantic partners. (After all, is there anything more intimate than someone’s face in your nether regions?) If you’re ready to take your oral sex game to the next level, Fascinations has you covered with these oral sex techniques that will blow your partner’s mind.

Oral Sex Techniques for People Who Have a Penis

Needless to say, giving oral sex can be a radically different experience depending on whether your partner has a vulva or a penis. Giving oral sex to someone with a penis is often called a blow job, or fellatio. There are lots of different ways to give a blow job, and each individual is unique in what they find the most pleasurable.

A surefire way to find out what kind of oral sex your partner likes is to simply ask them. Maybe they like it slow and sensual, or perhaps they are turned on by edging or teasing. If they’re not sure what they like or are trying to mix things up, try some of these oral sex techniques.

First Things First: Lube Up

You don’t have to use lubricant to give an amazing blow job, but many people find that lube can enhance the experience for both partners by keeping things...well, lubricated. Saliva will definitely get the job done, but using lube can keep you from getting too parched. Flavored lube is also a great way to make your partner taste irresistible.

Eye Contact, Eye Contact, Eye Contact

Fellatio is already a pretty intimate act, but making eye contact while you go down on them can make you both feel even closer and let them know you’re super into pleasuring them. Don’t feel like you can’t blink or look down every now and then to focus on the task at hand, but making eye contact throughout your BJ sesh is good practice.

Use Your Hands Too

Obviously, the focus of oral sex is what you do with your mouth, but what you do with the rest of your body matters, too. Using your hands can be quite effective, especially if you’re not into deep-throating or just have a sensitive gag reflex. Try wrapping your hands around the base of your partner’s penis and moving it up and down in tandem with your mouth to really drive them wild. Pay special attention to the often-overlooked frenulum, meatus, and the space between the testicles and the base of the penis.

Don’t Forget the Balls

Speaking of using your hands, pay special attention to your partner’s balls. You can stimulate the testicles manually while simultaneously giving them oral pleasure or lick and tease the balls with your tongue instead. If you’re using your hand, try gently pulling or giving them a light squeeze for starters. You can also roll them in your hands (sort of like a pair of dice), stroke at a downward angle, or try some playful tapping as you give your partner head.

Stimulate Other Erogenous Zones

The cock and balls are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to erogenous zones. Put your multitasking skills to the test with this oral sex technique by stimulating your partner’s other erogenous zones while you give them a blow job. You can try caressing or twisting their nipples, or oiling them up for a massage that’s both relaxing and stimulating. Focus on the area below their belly button and their thigh and pelvic region to really draw out the experience and get them super turned on. Other areas you may want to experiment with include the perineum and butt. Grab their hips and pull them toward you, or just give their cheeks a good squeeze (or slap).

Experiment With Warm and Cool Sensations

Temperature play can be a really fun way to take your oral sex game to the next level. This can be as easy as eating a popsicle before you go down on them or putting an ice cube in your mouth during oral sex. For warmer sensations, try drinking a hot cup of tea or coffee before sexy time. Of course, taking a time out to run to the freezer might put a damper on the mood, so you can always use warming or cooling stimulants for increased arousal and sensation without having to put the kettle on.

Up the Ante With Sex Toys

We’re big believers in the ability of sex toys to increase sexual pleasure and satisfaction between couples. When it comes to giving a mind-blowing blow job, there are several implements which can take things to a whole new level. Cock rings (either the vibrating or non-vibrating variety) can be used in a couple of different ways to increase and prolong sensation. You can have your partner wear the cock ring at the base of their penis while you go down on them, or you can also use a flexible cock ring as a wearable tongue vibrator. Throw in some anal sex toys for additional posterior pleasure.