Does your sex life need a boost? Do you and your partner want to explore more creative and kinky fantasies? Then you landed on a great introduction into the world of dominant BDSM role playing and kink. Here you’ll find a basic guide to dominatrix for beginners that will take you one step to learning how to dominate your partner in the bedroom—or, wherever else the mood strikes!
What a Dominatrix Is
A dominatrix is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM and kink play. She controls her partner in a sexual way knowing that they are trusting her to provide everything they need to fullfill their kinky fantasies.
What a Dominatrix Is Not
A dominatrix is not a woman who gets a rush out of causing physical and psychological harm to another person, especially the emotionally unstable. In fact, when done properly, both the submissive and the dominatrix will feel empowered by the thrill of acting out BDSM fantasies and fetishes without fear of judgment or repercussion. Additionally, both may notice a confidence boost in the way they communicate with others and their willingness to learn how to be more vulnerable with someone they trust.
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What Is the Role of a Submissive?
A submissive is the receiver of enacted BDSM fantasies and kinks that may include being tied up, spanked, tickled, ordered around, foot worshiped, humiliated, or role playing. Subs have complete control of what is being done to them based on previously defined boundaries and rules. Ultimately, a sub desires uninhibited freedom that comes from being able to put their guard down and surrender to a dominant female.
The Importance of a Safe Word / Signal
Consent is important no matter what type of sex play you chose to explore. The use of safe words and signals also make it possible to let the dominant know when actions become too intense without breaking the mood. More specifically, safe words and signals make it possible for a Dom to live in the moment without the fear of pushing the sub too far physically, mentally, or emotionally.
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BDSM Props for Beginners
As with a lot of things, the right accessories can help make something drab into something fab. And at FunLove.com, we have all kinds of useful and attractive adult toys, fetish apparel, and props to help outfit you in your new life as a Dom.Since this is an introduction for beginner dominatrices, you may want to start with more mild options like blindfolds / masks, handcuffs, paddles, crops, ticklers, and bondage tape.
Once you and your partner are comfortable using those BDSM props, you may want to graduate to breathable gags, a submission hood, leather restraints, nipple clamps, studded impact play props, cock cages, sounds, and other advanced options.
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Don’t Forget About Aftercare
Last but not least, don’t forget the aftercare. If you are not familiar with aftercare, it can include seeing that your partner's physical and emotional needs are taken care of after a play session. For instance, you don’t want to just get up and walk away from your partner while they are still tied up, sweaty, and feeling a bit emotional.
Offering to bathe them, a soothing massage, taking time for pillow talk, bringing them a cold beverage, or cuddling up under a blanket whistle you both decompress are all welcome aftercare options.
Visit FunLove for Your Dominatrix Needs
The staff at FunLove.com hopes that this dominatrix for beginners intro has helped you understand why exploring you and your partners sexual fantasies and fetishes is a perfectly normal way to help keep your relationship fresh and energized. No matter what you’re looking for, we’re confident that FunLove.com has the perfect products to help you and your partner turn your fantasies into reality.
If you’re not sure which products are right for you then please give us a call at 866-FUN-LOVE or visit one of our Fascinations stores located throughout Arizona and Colorado. Our sexperts are happy to answer any questions you may have so that you can find the best props and products for your needs. Remember, shipping is free on all orders over $89, so feel free to toss a few more goodies into your shopping cart.
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