Most Popular Kinks in America

A kink is defined as an unconventional sexual preference. Everyone has their kinks, but some people are uncomfortable discussing them. Whether it’s because they’re modest, shy, or conservative, some people simply don’t talk about things that are considered taboo. thinks this is a mistake. The best way to understand things is to talk and learn about them, which can lead to you enjoying them. With that in mind, we present the five most popular kinks according to science, so you can learn what others enjoy in the bedroom and try it out for yourself.

The popularity of different kinks changes with time. For example, the 50 Shades of Gray books and movies have greatly increased the popularity of BDSM over the last decade. To help keep this list of top five most popular kinks timely, we’ve used relatively recent resources. First up is a 2016 study by Christian C. Joyal and Julie Carpentier titled “The Prevalence of Paraphilic Interests and Behaviors in the General Population: A Provincial Survey.” Second is Justin J. Lehmiller’s 2018 book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.

Now, in no particular order, here are the five most popular kinks according to science!

Group Sex

Lehmiller interviewed 4,175 people for his book and more than half of them fantasized about various types of group sex. Threesomes were the most popular, with 89% of the subjects saying that they were interested in experiencing a ménage à trois. Slightly less popular were orgies, which were of interest to 74% of the respondents. Gang bangs were not as popular as threesomes or orgies, but still of interest to 61% of the people interviewed. While some people believe that group sex is a stereotypical male fantasy, the majority of men and woman interviewed showed an interest in group sex.

Foot Fetishes

Feet have more nerve endings per square inch than any other part of the human body. This is why they can be so sensitive and offer so many pleasure possibilities. Whether it’s having your toes sucked or having your feet be the focus of an erotic massage, foot fetishes are a kink that can be hugely pleasurable. Unfortunately, foot fetishists get a bad rap. That’s just wrong! Don’t deny yourself the incredible sensations of foot play just because some people find it weird.

Some FunLove customers use anal beads or kegel balls for foot play. This is an outstanding way to enjoy a different type of fun other than what these sex toys were intended for. If you do want to use the sex toys you already have for foot play, just be sure to give them a thorough cleaning before using them for penetration.

Sensory Play

The majority of Lehmiller’s respondents reported that they fantasized about sensory play. This kink is a blanket term that covers several unconventional ways people can derive sexual pleasure. Some prefer blindfolds, while others prefer tickling. One of the most popular forms of sensory stimulation among FunLove customers is temperature play. Our customers use the sex toys that they already have and experience them in drastically different ways by cooling or heating them.

Like many items on this list of most popular kinks, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with sensory play. For whatever reason, societal norms have branded it as abnormal or unusual, denying people enjoyment of this particular type of stimulation. With so many different types of sensations to experience, FunLove hopes that you give sensory play a shot.

Impact Play

The popularity of impact play has soared in the last decade. As we mentioned earlier, it’s almost definitely due to the 50 Shades of Gray books and movies. In fact, many of FunLove’s most popular products use a variation of “50 Shades” as an homage to the works of art that have helped people enjoy sex in new ways.

FunLove has a wide variety of paddles and whips that are great for newcomers and seasoned hands alike. Whether you’re looking for a light whipping or a heavy flogging, we have excellent products that can help explore this kink. The first, and most important, step into impact play is discussing boundaries with your partner, so that you can both enjoy safely.


Now more than ever, it’s obvious that people love to watch. Whether it’s a movie marathon or binging a television series, people love watching content. With that in mind, it should come as no surprise that voyeurism is one of the most popular kinks in America. The majority of Americans have fantasized about watching other people have sex in person.

Society has deemed watching live sex wrong, but really, what’s wrong with watching consenting adults engage in a completely natural and normal act? If the people having sex and the people watching aren’t hurting anyone, this can be a wonderful thing. The people having sex can enjoy it as exhibitionists, while those watching can enjoy the view from the outside. As an added bonus, you just might learn a trick or two that you can use to pleasure your partner.

Explore the Most Popular Kinks with FunLove hopes that you have a better idea of the kinks that people enjoy. Hopefully this list of the five most popular kinks has given you some new ideas that you and your partner can try. 

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