Massage therapy is a growing industry in the United States. According to the American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA), 22% of men and 20% of women got a massage in 2020 (and after the year we had, 100% of us probably needed one). With ample mental and physical health benefits like pain relief, muscle relaxation, and stress reduction, you may have wondered how you can incorporate massage into your sex life. As always, FunLove.com has you covered. Find out how to give your partner an erotic massage they’ll never forget with this step-by-step guide.

#1: Establish a Sensual, Relaxing Environment

We’re all for spontaneity when it comes to wooing your partner, but when you’re about to give an erotic massage, it’s better to set the mood in advance. You don’t have to go all out with rose petals and aphrodisiacs (unless you want to—do you), but spending half an hour tidying up and adding a few nice touches to your bedroom can make all the difference. Here are some tried-and-true ideas for creating an enticing atmosphere:

• Start with a clean, comfortable space: Put down a few towels or a fresh set of sheets you don’t mind mucking up (massage oil can be messy). Plump up the pillows on the bed so your partner feels settled and comfy.
• Dim the lights: Kind of cliché, but it helps make the experience more relaxing. If you don’t have dimmable lights, use candlelight. Pro tip: LED candles are a safe alternative to real candles, especially if you’re prone to knocking things over.
• Cue up some music: From ambient spa sounds to smooth jazz, R&B slow jams, or light indie folk, choose a playlist your partner will enjoy. For inspiration, check out sensual playlists on Spotify, YouTube, or other streaming services. You can even create a custom playlist that builds in intensity.

#2: Gather All Your Erotic Massage Must-Haves

Once the atmosphere is set, it’s time to break out your massage toolkit. Prepare these items ahead of time for a smooth, uninterrupted experience:

• Massage oil or lotion: Massage oil is essential for reducing friction and helping your hands glide smoothly. Choose from aromatherapy scents, warming formulas, or even lickable varieties. If less slippage is preferred, go with massage lotion. Remember: oil-based lubes degrade latex condoms.
• Massage candles: For fans of temperature play, massage candles are a great option. They melt into warm, fragrant oil that can be poured onto the skin or applied with your fingers.
• Sensory toys: Ramp up their sense of touch with sensory toys. Have your partner wear a blindfold, then tease them with a feather duster, tickler, or pinwheel before diving into the massage.
• Wands: Wands work wonders on sore muscles and can easily be incorporated into your massage. For less intensity, try a bullet vibe.
• Lingerie: Start your massage in sexy lingerie that feels great on both you and your partner. A silk chemise, baby doll, or teddy adds an extra layer of allure.

#3: Massage Them Like a Pro

You don’t need to attend massage therapy school to deliver a sensual massage. Follow these tips to impress your partner:

• Start slowly with a light touch: Have your partner lie on their stomach. Warm the massage oil in your hands and spread it evenly over their back and shoulders using long, smooth strokes. Focus on tense muscle groups like the shoulders, arms, and legs, gradually increasing pressure.
• Turn up the heat: Use more than just your hands—try incorporating your tongue, lips, or even a Japanese Nuru massage for full-body contact and new sensations.
• Tease before you please: Build sexual tension by massaging adjacent erogenous zones like thighs, knees, or breasts. Stop just short of the nipples or genitals for a slow, tantalizing experience.
• Happy ending (optional): Not every erotic massage needs to end in orgasm, but many couples find it an ideal prelude to better, longer-lasting orgasms.

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